Maybe I didn't generate enough interest, I admit that I did poorly on this set. However I was given a whole lot of IOI. In fact I was certain that she won't shot me down, it never occur once in my mind that some one would say no. She said "No, thanks" never skipping a beat, and it left me scrambling to recover with a bad time constrain.
Lets look at what I did wrong. First, the target wasn't optimal in the first place. I have known her for a long time and I never bothered to generate interest earlier. This sudden rush of feeling probably made her feel like I was just taking shots in the dark with no genuine interest in her. Secondly, I was basically forcing the issue since I was following her around after class. Which by itself is a big no no. You are never ever supposed to follow a girl around. You are giving her too much frame control and you are letting her assume the position of Alpha PLUS she will think that you are unable to come up with interesting things to do yourself. When I was with her, all the above occurred and then she probably did not have a positive feeling. BUT I felt like she did not have a chance to say no, given that I felt that I was several leagues above her and there was no reason she would reject me.
WRONG again! That type of mindset is ostensibly a good thing, however you MUST express it as well. If you are acting one way then thinking the other, you are bound to get bad results. You must act like you are the prize if you are going to think you are the prize. What I did was think that I was the prize but I did not show it, instead I followed her around then popped the question.
All in all I did not really care. It was good experience to see what I did wrong and what not.
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